Can success leave you lonely? That depends on what type of companionship you seek as a person. From the male point of view, I don’t think a successful man will ever be too lonely due to the fact that being successful is a quality that attracts women. It may not be the long-term relationship type of women, but there will be someone around. Whether they are on that man’s level of success is not a big concern to most; as men we feel that we should be the breadwinner in most instances. In my opinion, it’s not the accomplishments of men and women that separate us, but the ills of society that tend to brainwash us into believing that you need someone of equal status as your counterpart. There has never been an example of a man who is very successful not reaching down and dealing with someone not on their “level”. Now if the situation were reversed, there would be plenty of backlash for a successful woman taking on the burden of a man.
So what can be done from this point? I feel like everyone needs to do away with stereotypes, prejudice, and judge everyone one on a case-by-case basis. Statistics show that black women make up 71% of all black graduates. This statement is misleading since it implies that all black female graduates end up being successful in their careers. This is also misleading because success can be attained without a college education. The real issue is compatibility: people fail to sync themselves with someone who is their complement and not their competition.
I’m not sure I agree that “society brainwashes us into believe you need someone of equal status.” In fact I think its the opposite. We live in a male-dominated society whether you are black, white, asian or latino. If anything society teaches us to believe that woman are to be seen not heard and stand by their man no matter what.
In a perfect world we would do away with stereotypes and judge everyone individually; however, this world is not perfect. If we choose not to see similarities and differences then what’s the point of Black Is? Are we making efforts to redefine black love or are we saying love has no color? If that’s the case then this issue really isn’t an issue at all-all the lonely successful sistas should just start dating out of their race.