How To Pick a Great Natural Hair Stylist

This year I embarked on a hunt for a new hairstylist. My old stylist is the best, but expensive, and I was searching for someone a bit more friendly to my pocketbook. I tried a new person three times: the first time it was pretty good, but the last two times were awful. It was my bad for returning for a third try, but I gave this stylist the benefit of the doubt. In the end I’m right back to my old stylist because with natural hair, you get what you pay for.

Natural hair has becomes booming fad. I’ve been natural for almost 15 years and in that time I’ve worn a myriad of natural styles, many of which I learned to do on my own. But I never stopped loving the pampering effects of visiting a professional stylist to get my do’ done – and with a great stylist, the results are stunning. However, when it comes to natural hair a certain set of criteria must be followed before you allow someone to put their hands in your hair. Further, that initial visit will tell you plenty about whether or not they should continue putting their hands in your hair. Transitioning sisters, listen up!

A great natural hair stylist should know about both natural and processed techniques and styles. Why you might ask? It’s important that your stylist be well-rounded in their knowledge of hair and scalp health and the best way to achieve this is to know how to style all types of hair. If you start with a natural stylist who has no knowledge of perms and you are transitioning, a stylist with limited knowledge might not know how best to advise you during the process and style you for maximum growth. They also might not be as sensitive to the process you’re experiencing. Also, knowing what styles best fit your face shape is knowledge  your stylist should be equipped with. A style that looks good on one person may not look so good on another, and you want a stylist who 1) tell you this before styling you and taking your money and 2) can come up with an alternate style that you will love.

A great natural hair stylist has an arsenal of tried and true hair products. A stylist with years of experience under their belt has tried many products, and knows what product work best on a variety of hair types. He/She might even concoct of few of their own but whatever they choose to use will ensure that your natural hairstyle is looking its best. Red flag: If your hair does not hold a style, frizzes easily, or your stylist is always trying to sell you their homemade products, chunk up the deuce on that stylist and move on.

A great natural hairstylist can….style. There is NOTHING WORSE than being held captive in a chair for hours getting styled without a mirror. If you’re in the hands of a new stylist and they purposely keep you from seeing the mirror that’s a problem. When they swing you around and your appearance isn’t an improvement, that’s a problem. If your braids, twists, locks, etc. aren’t uniformed but different sizes and crazy looking, THAT’S A PROBLEM. Never sit in a stylist’s chair without seeing a portfolio of their work. If they can’t produce one there is a reason why. Don’t pay good money to let somebody just play in your hair.

A great natural hairstylist is committed to their craft. That commitment includes keeping appointments to do hair. A stylist that constantly cancels due to other obligations is a warning sign. Some “stylists” are simply people that know how to braid or twist – but their passion lies elsewhere. That’s not the type of stylist you want to commit to when they aren’t committed to the job themselves. Your hair appointment will always come in second to what their true passion is.

A great natural hairstylist doesn’t have too many “don’t do’s”. I’m wary of any stylist that doesn’t do this or doesn’t use that. The beauty of natural hair is that it can do so many things, and a great stylist is willing to try a variety of things to please the client. Even if it is a new process, a great stylist can be innovative and try something he or she has never done before.

And finally…

A great natural stylist has a great reputation for their work. The best way to meet a great stylist is to approach someone with a hairstyle you like and ask about it. If the person speaks highly of the stylist, get that stylists’ number and book an appointment. Clients who are happy with their hairstylists can’t say enough about them, and tend to be loyal customers. Be wary of stylists who approach you – chances are they are still building a clientele. Unless you are willing to take a chance on an amateur, keep you eyes open for a good-looking head of natural hair and get the information you need.

 

 

 

Let’s Face It: Skincare Tips for all Ages

From the on-set of pubescent acne to the wisdom lines of middle age, all women can have radiant skin. Here are few tips to maintain a healthy glow through the decades:

3 of a Kind

Look for a 3-step cleansing system to clean, tone (exfoliate) and moisturize your face according to your skin type. Most major cosmetics lines carry a 3 or 4 step cleansing system.

Rays today, Lines tomorrow

Always use sunscreen. Protect your skin against harmful UVB/UVA rays to ward off signs of premature aging. Choose a daily moisturizer with a SPF of at least 15.

You are what you Eat

Stay away from fried food and any food that could potentially cause a breakout. Instead choose a healthy snack like strawberries, blackberries or plums that are rich in anti-oxidants that may soothe irritated skin. Add walnuts and salmon to your diet, both contain Omega-3 fatty acids, which help maintain your skin’s natural oils for a more youthful appearance.

Get to Steppin’

Want beautiful skin? Get moving! Exercise coupled with at least eight glasses of water is one of the best ways to improve your complexion. Try walking, swimming or biking to get your blood flowing to speed-up the rate of skin cell-turnover leaving you with newer, healthier skin cells on your facial surface.

TEENS

Raging hormones are usually to blame for acne in teens. Between the ages of 13-17, oil glands may be producing too much oil causing pimples to appear. Teens with acne should be sure to cleanse with a mild cleanser twice a day. The cleanser should contain acne-fighting meds like salicylic acid or benzoyl peroxide. Be sure all products are oil-free and “non-comedogenic” (does not clog pores). If breakouts persist, consult a dermatologist.

20’s

It is always tempting to go to sleep in makeup after a long night but suppress the urge. Keep non-scented baby wipes or makeup remover wipes on your nightstand. At least you will remove the surface makeup, dirt and oil that will surely turn into a pimple the next morning. The fast life of your twenties will definitely show on your face in your thirties if precautions are not taken.

30’s

Now is the time to preserve the skin that will carry you through middle age. In addition to using a 3 or 4-step system, thirty-somethings should add an eye cream in the day as well as before bed. Adding moisture to the eye area will decrease the chances of “crows feet” lines around the eyes. A separate moisturizer for the eyes is important because the skin in the eye area is much thinner. Facial creams can sometimes be too harsh.

40’s

By the time you reach your forties, your skin has undoubtedly gone through several phases. You may notice that your skin has become increasingly drier over the years. Now is the time to add a night cream with a thicker consistency to replenish the natural oils that have been lost. This may also be a time to consider cosmetic fillers like Botox or Restylane to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles.

50’s and Beyond

Now that you have mastered the skin care regimens of previous decades, you may opt to lighten areas of hyperpigmentation or age-spots by using a skin brightening system. Acne may also once again become and issue due to the fluctuation of hormones in menopause. Be sure to see a dermatologist if acne persists.

Mikki Bey is a Los Angeles-based makeup artist who believes in the power of the universe to bring her all the desires of her heart. Fearless, determined and capable – she’s a bad mamajama! She can be reached at mikki@mikkibey.com.

 

Manscaping! Trim the Lawn!

Fellas, the same way you like for your lady to be neatly trimmed please give her the same courtesy. MOW THE LAWN!!!!! Yes, I said it! Get out your clippers (with a guard, we wouldn’t want any mishaps:), a pair of scissors and a comb to tame the beast in your boxers. The same goes for any unsightly hair on other places on your body. Here are a few helpful tips to make  your man-scaping easier.

  • Shaving- If being bald is your preference be sure to use your clippers. Shaving the traditional way can cause ingrown hairs. (Mikki’s quick tip: exfoliate the area after with a loofah to help the hair grow back without razor bumps.)
  • Nair- Yes, the same stuff your lady uses works for you. But if you are bothered by the pink bottle, hop over to CVS. They sell a Nair for Men 🙂
  • Waxing- The thought probably scares you half to death but the result is baby-smooth skin that your woman would love to kiss. Try it out. Many waxing salons offer Manzilians to get all of the unwanted hair…..EVERYWHERE! Come on, you can take a little temporary pain.
  • Use your lady- Many of us are more than willing to help you trim or totally remove hair. Casually bring it up to her and see if she volunteers. You may get a little treat in the process.
With all of that said, if you like your hair everywhere great! But take into consideration how your partner may feel about it. Life is full of compromises. This may be a small one with BIG rewards.

Mikki Bey is a Los Angeles-based makeup artist who believes in the power of the universe to bring her all the desires of her heart. Fearless, determined and capable – she’s a bad mamajama! She can be reached at mikki@mikkibey.com.

15 Minute Break: Black Women On Black Hair

It’s another edition of Black Women Speak! Join KC and the ladies as they wrap up their discussion on why Black women must live by our own beauty standard, and our relationship with out hair. Podcast guests include Stacee Brewer, Tiffany Lanoix, Rayna Lott, Nikeita Crichlow, Joy May-Harris, Jamila Farwell, Toria Williams, and Sister T. The websites referenced during the podcast are Nappturality and Long Hair Care Forum.

Of course, we’ve given you more than 15 minutes!

Have Good Hair With a Good Workout

Many a black woman throughout history has shunned a swimming pool or a workout routine because she didn’t want to “sweat her style out” or get her hair wet. But what if you want to be healthy? Exercising is a must. If you want to work out without messing up that perfect coif, try these tips:

Wrap it Up

For short to medium hair, wrap a cotton or silk scarf around your hair. You don’t have to cover your entire head. While you can always place a cotton bandana over your head and knot it at the nape of your neck, you could also just wrap the scarf around your hairline, leaving the crown exposed. This will preserve the volume without flattening your ‘do. Cotton is generally not recommended, but in this instance, it can absorb your perspiration and keep it from getting into your face.

Style a Ponytail

Longer-haired ladies can pull their hair back into a ponytail. Fashion a high ponytail that doesn’t rest against your neck if possible. Not only does it keep your hair out of the way, you can wear a matching covered elastic if you like your hair accessories to match your exercise outfits.

Braid It

If your hair is long enough, braid it into one or two French braids, or simply one braided ponytail. You can then wrap it with a scarf or pin the braid or braids up. Post-workout, unravel the braids for a wavy look.

Wear it Natural

Your hair doesn’t have to be natural, but you can style it in more of a “wash n’ go” way if you have a texturizer instead of fully straightening it. Of course, if your hair is natural, then you probably don’t mind wetting and/or conditioner washing more often. When you have other options besides the bone-straight look, you won’t spend as much time straightening after exercising. Instead, you can either shake it out and go, or wash and go without too much effort.

 

How to Tell Your Friend She Looks a MESS!

Ladies, let’s be real. We all have a friends that wear clothes that are too tight/too short, makeup looks like Halloween, or wears a weave that you see every track. We can not let this go on! The great debate between girlfriends is always “am I a bad friend if I tell her” or “am I a bad friend if I don’t tell her?” The answer is the latter.
Let’s go over some ways to break the news to friends with out losing the friendship:
  • Choose your approach: You have to know your friend. If you can have a sit down and just say what’s on your mind and she will take it in the best way possible, great. If not, you may have to find a softer approach.
  • The Proof: Do you have pictures or videos that you can show her as evidence of the hot mess? Show her casually and laugh about how you both have come so far with your looks. Slide in some things that you do to keep your look fresh.
  • Find the root: Is it lack of knowledge? Maybe she just doesn’t know how put herself together. If it is an issue of knowledge, ask her if she has ever been shown what a good makeup application should look like. Suggest your hairstylist and book appointments together so that you can guide her through the process.
  • Style Police: If you are about to go out and your friend has something tacky on make a joke about how people will wonder if you are her friend if you let her wear that. Often you can make one or two changes to the outfit to make it suitable.
  • Assess the confidence: Our outward appearance is often a sign of how we feel about ourselves inside. If you detect issues of low self-esteem be sure to use the sandwich method. For every negative thing you have to tell her slide it in between two positive things.
  • Last resort: If you can’t bring yourself to tell her, resolve to just love her through the embarrassment and move on. Nothing superficial is worth losing a true friend.

Mikki Bey is a Los Angeles-based makeup artist who believes in the power of the universe to bring her all the desires of her heart. Fearless, determined and capable – she’s a bad mamajama! She can be reached at mikki@mikkibey.com.


Dark and Damaged

There is an ominous phenomenon growing rapidly within black culture today. To be honest, it is no phenomenon, and while it is still growing rapidly, it is already a problem that seems almost too huge to tackle. Allow me to explain.

Here’s a picture of Beyonce from back in the days of Destiny’s Child:

Beyonce on the far right, looking as black as she ever was

 

Here Beyonce and her group mates look like Nubian queens, goddesses in matching leather outfits. Beyonce’s hair appears to be a natural brown, the same as her eyebrows.  Her hair and skin are nearly the same color, both of which brown. To put it simply, she looks black. That should make complete sense…because she is.

Now let’s take a look at Beyonce on her newest album, entitled “4.”

Wow Beyonce...where'd your pigment go?

Let’s play this like one of those megatouch games you see at bars, where you have to point out the differences. For one, the skin tight leather dress has been replaced by a cleavage-friendly feathered throw. That’s not what we’re looking for however. There are two other differences that I find disturbing: her new skin and her hair. Beyonce looks like a white pop star, plain and simple.  This lightening of her skin seems intentional, it being so prominent on this album cover. Her hair and skin are nearly the same color, both of which are not brown. Beyonce’s blonde hair is nothing new, but on this new cover, draped over her pale shoulders, it looks exceptionally disconcerting.

Ok, you get it now. Beyonce was once black, and now appears to be white. So what’s the problem? Well, the problem is that Beyonce is one of the most popular, respected, and admired black females of our generation. Beyonce, and other famous black female pop stars of her caliber, are mass media representations of black beauty.  Thousands of young black girls look up to her, wishing one day they could be as talented, as glamorous, as beautiful as her. So it both saddens and infuriates me that women like Beyonce, who are well aware of their roles in the black community, still take steps in the direction of putting whiteness on a pedestal and kicking blackness in the sand.

As I said before, this is no not truly a phenomenon. There is nothing new about this sort of appreciation of whiteness and depreciation of blackness. Back in 1929, a light-skinned Harlem Renaissance author named Nella Larsen wrote a short novel entitled Passing. The novel follows Irene, a black woman from Harlem who reunites with Clare, an old childhood friend. Many years have passed since the two last saw each other, and upon reuniting it is revealed that Clare, who is half white, is “passing” as a white woman. She hides her blackness so well that she is able to marry a rich, racist white man. The perception of beauty in conjunction with skin color is a major theme throughout the novel, proving that even back in the late 1920’s black women were struggling with this issue. Now, over 80 years later the issue has not been resolved.

In 2009 Chris Rock began scratching the surface of the “white is beautiful” topic with Good Hair, an excellent documentary about what black women go through just to have perfect locks. Nearly all of the women interviewed for the documentary made the same statement: That the ultimate goal in treating and styling black hair is to make it look as straight and luscious as white hair. Chris Rock brings light to the topic through his satire, but the truth revealed by Good Hair is nothing funny. This October a new documentary will once again reopen the white beauty topic for discussion. Dark Girls: The Story of Color, Gender, and Race, is a revealing exposition on the perceptions of skin color, and how those perceptions affect women of dark complexion. According to the official website, Dark Girls “pulls back our country’s curtain to reveal that the deep seated biases and hatreds of racism – within and outside of the Black American culture – remain bitterly entrenched.” The trailer for the film, which you can watch for yourself below, is gut-wrenching. There’s a moment where a black child is asked questions about beauty and must  point at cartoons with varying complexions to answer. When asked which girl is prettiest she chooses the lightest of the identical cartoons; when asked who is ugliest she chooses the darkest. When asked who’s the smartest she again chooses the cartoon that looks white, but when asked who is dumbest her finger slides directly to the darkest girl, without hesitation. Already visible at such a young age, these are the perceptions black women spend their lives fighting. It surely doesn’t help that Beyonce looks like Ke$ha and Rihanna’s hair looks completely unnatural. For more information on Dark Girls, visit the official website, which is linked below.

http://officialdarkgirlsmovie.com/about/

Ben Badio is a jack-of-all-trades. A recent graduate from the University of Central Florida, Ben has a healthy obsession with technology, a grand knowledge of music, and a passion for writing. You can read more about him here and contact him at benbadio@gmail.com.

 

15 Minute Break! Nip & Tuck: A White Thing or Right Thing?

Listen in to a round table discussion as KC and the family discuss the real deal with platonic relationships and keeping boundaries clear. Podcast guests include Chris Lehman, Mr. & Mrs. CEODJ A-ski, Toria Williams, Nabil Stevens, Inglewood Trizz, Darius Gray, and Obi Obijiaku.

DISCLAIMER: This podcast runs long – too good of a conversation to cut short. Enjoy!

 

 

Perception is Reality: Weight Wars

Looking through some of my old Facebook pics I realized that in each of the pictures I remember thinking I was fat. Now, I wish I looked like that! At that moment, I realized that somewhere along the lines my body image was warped. In what world have I ever been an obese person? Granted, there have been times in my life that I have had extra weight but feeling obese–unwarranted.

 

Living in LA is another dynamic. I went on a date here with a 6’4″ black man who sat across a dinner table from me and said, “I usually don’t date women your size.” WTF!!!! I was thinking, “It is so time to book a one  way ticket to anywhere East of here!” I live in a place where skinny is in. That is not and never will be me. The compromise is taking the healthier lifestyle that exists here and adapting to that, but to tune out the cockamamie BS about the beauty of seeing bones.

As I am once again embarking on a weight loss journey, I am going into it this time with a totally different mindset. I’m not losing weight to look like someone I’m not but rather to attain optimal health. I read a book over the summer that changed my eating habits DRASTICALLY! I became vegan for about 20 days and loved it but it’s way too expensive for my blood right now to eat that way.  Although I reintroduced chicken, seafood and dairy, I never went back to eating red meat or pork. I recently dropped chicken again because I absolutely can’t stand the thought of eating it (read Skinny Bitch and then tell me how you feel about it).

At 27, I am the most confident in myself and my body as I have ever been. I am very secure with who I am and what I look like. We all have our days but all-in-all loving the skin/body I am in gets better every day. Doing a little bit each day to reach my goal is my strategy. 10x10x10 is my motto. Focus on losing just 10 pounds at a time until my goal is reached. Exercise has been the DEVIL but it is a necessary evil that I have actually come to enjoy on some rare occasions. Ultimately, looking great will be a bi-product of feeling great!

Happy Living!

Mikki Bey is a Los Angeles-based makeup artist who believes in the power of the universe to bring her all the desires of her heart. Fearless, determined and capable – she’s a bad mamajama! She can be reached at mikki@mikkibey.com.

 

LA EVENTS: Grand Opening of Urban Elegance Earring Bar

Custom jeweler KimCherrelle is proud to announce the grand opening of her new business, the Urban Elegance Earring Bar! KimCherrelle, owner and operator of KimCherrelle Designs – a premier custom jeweler here in Los Angeles since 1998 – is welcoming Angelenos to get a first glance at her new earring designs just in time for summer! This grand opening will take place this Saturday, June 18th from 1pm – 7pm inside Hair Erotica Studios.

Details are as follows:

KimCherrelle Designs Presents..

13114 Hawthorne Blvd., Los Angeles, CA 90250

For more information. call (310) 494-1760

See you there!