There is a right and a wrong way to handle everything in life including breakups. I probably should hold off on writing this until the dust has settled on my own breakup but this is why I started blogging in the first place. My goal is to share my life experiences in the hopes that someone benefits for the things I write about.
I was just dumped via email. Yes, EMAIL!!!! The irony of the whole situation is that I almost dumped the guy not once but TWICE! Each time I was suckered back in by the hope of reformation. But this time it was me that was the dumpee because “our wants and needs” are not aligned.
Which brings me to the title of this article. Don’t feel badly for me. It happens to the best of us. Somewhere I know there are a legion of men jumping up and down for the folly of one of their fellow brethren. It wasn’t some long drawn out love affair. In fact it was a mere 45 days of my life, the shortest relationship to date. Nevertheless, it hurts and it feels quite awful to have been dumped via modern technology.
Without further ado let’s learn how to dump folks with class. Here is a list of what NOT to do:
- EMAILS are ABSOLUTELY not an acceptable way to end a VERBAL contract with someone you are supposed to care about.
- TEXTING is equally as offensive. The idea that a person past the age of 12 would use this form of communication is preposterous. Don’t do it!
- Letters. I am not quite sure if people even write letters anymore but at any rate it’s a bad idea. I have an appreciation for the written word but this is not the time to display your eloquent way with words.
- Sending a mutual friend to do your dirty work is extremely tacky. It puts the dumpee and the substitute dumper in awkward positions.
- Over the phone. While this is the least offensive of all the above it is still not ideal. Chances are you didn’t start the relationship over the phone so why should you end it with a phone call? In some circumstances this may be the best way to go. If you are fearful of the reaction then using the phone is fine.
The bottom-line is to show the person that you once liked/loved that although you don’t wish to be in a relationship any longer that you still respect them enough to give them the news FACE to FACE. All other methods of ending a relationship are typically taken because the dumper wants it to be easiest on them. We can think of that as the cowards way out.
If you are going through a breakup the best advice I can give is to deal with your anger and then let it go! If you need to cry, cry. If yelling helps, do it! If you need to respond to the dumper, get it all off your chest and then go on with life. He wasn’t the first and he won’t be the last.
NEXTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mikki Bey is a Los Angeles-based makeup artist who believes in the power of the Universe to bring her all the desires of her heart. Fearless, determined and capable – she’s a bad mamajama!
