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Listen in as KC and the family respond to a Facebook comment left by one of our loyal listeners. Podcast guests include Chris Lehman, Toria Williams, John Wood, and Merc80 (aka Yohance Serrant). For comments/questions on this episode, call the hotline at (323) 455-4219!
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In this Black Is After Dark episode, the family unpacks the questions, “Do men still expect to marry virgins?” and also wonder if promiscuity for both men and women is truly an issue. Podcast guests include Chris Lehman, Toria Williams, Malcolm Darrel and John and Triawna Wood.
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It was brought to my attention recently the influx of the current desire of society to want to have its’ cake and eat it too. Humans have the tendency to want to spice things up by trying new things – it’s natural. There’s been a recent spice that has been getting a lot of attention in the old spice cabinet in regards to dating: friends with benefits.
Since the box office hit Friends With Benefits featuring Mr. Timberlake and his beautiful costar Ms. Kunis, the idea has been haunting minds. Is this possible? Sure we are attracted to many different people sexually and sure we manage to stay friends with people who we are attracted to; however can we maintain that same relationship with someone who’s a friend with all the extra fun benefits? The whole idea in and of itself is complex. Does friends with benefits come with sexual monogamy? Do people become friends with benefits because they want to settle sexually & not emotionally? Do they engage in the relationship because they want to test drive before going all in? Or is it an excuse to have sex and think you’re not going to have feelings?
If in fact the setup comes with sexual monogamy then how is that any different from being in a relationship? Friends with benefits is having a relationship without really having a relationship and what comes with relationships? FEELINGS. Feelings are the very basic thing that separates humans from animals. They are inevitable and thus will appear in any situation.
Lets take a second to examine the reasons why either sex would engage in a friends with benefits relationship. Obviously there’s an enticing sexual benefit however how is this benefit any different from sleeping around with different people if there isn’t sexual monogamy? This is a ploy to get guys more play by acting as if they care more than they do. Females are the more emotional of the two and therefore are more inclined to take this title more seriously.
We have this unhealthy fascination with wanting to have our cake and eat it too. The fact is humans were made to feel. We cannot help but to feel so whether it’s the feeling of wanting more than sex with that person or a feeling of jealousy and replacement when that person moves on this can affect the friends with benefits relationship.
However this article begs the question, is friends with benefits controversial because it pushes the definition of relationships outside the box humans have worked years to define?
Writer and producer, Aireka Muse, is in the midst of an exciting Kickstarter campaign for her film project entitled, The Other Side of Love. The film is about a couple that explores the “what if’s?” when boredom sets in after a decade of marriage. Muse, who also authored the relationship blog, Until I Get To You, is fascinated with love and wanted to create a untold love story that showcased depth with multi-ethnic characters at its center. Muse is currently working on funding the project through Kickstarter and is a few days away from her goal date of November 29th! Listen in to our recent conversation and find out more detail about the film itself, how she assembled an amazing cast and director Bille Woodruff (Bring It On) for the project, her decision to release a feature film as a web series, and the perks of donating to her Kickstarter campaign.
For more details on the project, check out The Other Side of Love Kickstarter page and show your support!!!
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In the episode of the Black Is Break, KC and the family discuss what information is off-limits in a marriage or relationship. Podcast guests include Chris Lehman, Malcolm Darrell, John and Triawna Wood, and special guests Rod and Karen, from The Black Guy Who Tips podcast.
If you have comments or questions about this episode, feel free to call our hotline at (323) 455-4219. Enjoy!
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We’ve been hinting that BI friend, Craig Stewart had written a hot, little memoir and a few of us here at Black Is couldn’t wait to get our hands on it after reading an excerpt Craig sent us to whet our appetites. As it turns out the book in its entirety did not disappoint, and though steamy at points, it is moreso gut-wrenchingly honest.
Words Never Spoken is Craig’s journey into adulthood as he grapples with accepting the fact that he is a gay man. It takes us through his life starting in his hometown of Baltimore, MD, to his college experience at Hampton University and finally to Atlanta, where he begins his career as a writer of stage plays and music.
What I love most about this book is that (similarly to James Baldwin), Craig asks us as a community to confront homosexuality head on. So often our ignorance and or homophobia is cause for loved ones to stay closeted, on the down low, and estranged from family members. His honest exploration of his own experience as well as others around him who dealt with various level of acceptance and banishment gives a clear understanding of how gay Black men view themselves in light of how society treats them.
I implore anyone who is having a hard time dealing with a homosexual family member to get a copy of this book, read it and share it with others, so that as a community we do a better job of taking care of our own, in spite of our differences. Listen in as Craig and I discuss his process for writing this book and why he believes this story is so important to humanity at large.
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Listen in as KC chats with her favorite podcasters from around the nation about black men’s do’s and don’ts when it comes to bedroom antics. Podcast guests include Burberry Jones of the The Burberry Lounge, Mr. Moody of Mr. Moody’s Neighborhood, Darryl Frierson of From Ashy to Classy and Straight Outta Lo Cash podcast, Rod of The Black Guy Who Tips and finally, Chris Lehman of The Brothers Lehman Sports Happy Hour.
A special shout out to LDB Cosmetics for sponsoring this week’s episode! Check them out at ldbcosmetics.com for all your makeup artistry needs!
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Join KC and the family as they discuss the book-turned-film, Act Like a Lady, Think Like A Man and whether or not that dating advice is applicable to modern-day Black singles. Podcast guests include Chris Lehman, Toria Williams, and Darius Gray.
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Join KC and the family as they discuss the importance of sex in a relationship. Guests include Chris Lehman, Toria Williams, John C. Byrd III of Sickly Cat Magazine, John and Triawna Wood, and Ivy Lindsey. This podcast also features a special guest segment by The Player Hater.
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Excuse all of the background noise this episode (babies, doorbells). We are real people!
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Listen in as KC and the family discuss homosexuality in the Black community. Guests include Chris Lehman, Toria Williams, John C. Byrd III of Sickly Cat Magazine, Obinna Obijiaku, Craig Stewart, John and Triawna Wood, and Ivy Lindsey. Feel free to call our new hotline and leave a message about today’s show! You can reach us at (323) 455-4219!
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